In my economics studies back in college, I learned a few things about supply and demand, product scarcity and perceived value. As I started getting more involved with people and their relationship challenges, I soon realized these simple economic rules apply to relationships as well. You may want to listen up to what I have to say if you have ever asked yourself, “How can i get the man I want?”
First of all, you need to learn how to make yourself available to your man, but not too available. There is a fine line or balance between being too available and making yourself scarce. You see, in economics, a desired product which becomes scarce demands a higher price. That scarcity makes the product even more desirable and more valuable. This is simple economics and it can teach you something about relationships.
Dangers of Familiarity in a Relationship
Familiarity can be terribly disastrous in any relationship. This is most clearly seen in families when people are together a lot of the time. The bonds of love and family can be strained to the limit in these relationships, especially if some family members are the source of tension or problems. Although they love one another, sometimes families break up due to this continuing familiarity. The same applies to relationships between men and women. Too much familiarity can strain or even destroy the strongest relationships. As the saying goes, “familiarity breeds contempt.”
Being Available and Keeping Him Curious: A Balance
As with most things in life, too much of anything can be bad and the same goes for relationships. This is especially true with men in relationships. Men see everything as a challenge or quest and that includes women. The trick here is to strike the proper balance between being totally available to him and keeping him in a constant state of curiosity. Men tend to lose interest in women who do not present a challenge. These men may eventually lose interest and leave a relationship altogether.
Make yourself less available and your man will see you as a challenge to be won, a woman worth his pursuit. Remember, you have to find the balance between total availability and scarcity to make this work for you. For example, rather than saying yes to his every request, say no once in a while. Occasionally tell him that you have other priorities, you have other relationships that are also important – in short be less available and let him know he is important, but not all important.
The Value or Curiosity in Your Relationship
Maybe you have heard the old expression, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” I found this to be true when my own true love and I were separated for three months by several thousand miles while on summer break. We loved one another and could not wait to be together – the curiosity and desire to be together were so strong, we could hardly bear it. Without that unintended separation, this intense curiosity would not have occurred. Needless to say, that was a horrible summer but it brought us together and this scarcity made our relationship stronger.
There are many other things I have learned from my own relationship and from those couples I have counseled over the years. The one thing I wish I had done was to seek help from someone who had been down the relationship road before and could tell me about some of the possible road blocks, potholes and dangers there.