When someone is newly divorced, they can have various reactions to the idea of dating. Some people are ready to get right back out there and see what kind of people they can meet, especially if they have been married for many years. It can be an adventure to say the least. However, there are other people who are really hesitant to get back into the dating world, so they hide from any kind of social activities.
Here are a few dating tips for the newly divorced…
1. First, make sure that you are really ready to date. If you are still having a lot of emotional feelings towards your ex, you might not be ready to jump back into the dating pool just yet. The last thing you want to do is to carry a bunch of negativity into a new relationship. You might be painting all potential partners with the same broad brush due to nagging feelings that you have about your ex.
2. The second thing you need to do is to take care of yourself first. You likely went through some emotional turmoil during the divorce, so it makes sense to get yourself back in order first. You might need to…
- take a vacation,
- start an exercise program, or
- seek personal counseling.
You need to make sure you are ready to date – body, mind and spirit.
3. The third thing you can do is to make a list of what you would like in a potential new partner. Draw from what you didn’t like about your previous relationship so that you don’t make the same mistakes again. The last thing you want to do is to jump back into a relationship that has the same or similar problems you just dealt with in your divorce. No one is going to be perfect, so don’t try to search out someone who will meet all of your needs.
4. Finally, you really need to think through your dating plans if you have children. Remember your children didn’t ask for their parents to get divorced, so their needs should be first and foremost in your mind. Many parents put off dating until their children are older – simply for this reason. It’s about making sacrifices that will help your children remain well-adjusted even after they have felt the effects of their parents’ divorce. If nothing else, don’t bring potential new dating partners around your children until you are really sure they are going to be a long-term fixture in your life.
Source by Beverleigh H Piepers